Modern society places more demands on us and therefore increase anxiety and stress levels. Such requests may be real or perceived, that is to say that you believe they are real. It is reported that today's life is, on average, 44% more difficult than it was 30 years ago.
The purpose of this article is to identify some of these areas of stress, stress detail and offer some practical steps you can take to reduce its debilitating effects.
You should be aware that the long-term stress is a murderer, or, can provide horrible weakness. It can be insidious because the effects are cumulative affect us both mentally and physically, with the real possibility of bringing people to the breaking point.
For many people, stress is something that has been with them for a long time and are now the norm. This is far from healthy. Many are convinced that "thrive on stress. Again, this is a very unhealthy and potentially dangerous attitude to have and we will address the health problems created by the tension a little later. For now, however, I recommend you read this article and you must accept the responsibility to act to change things. By accepting you have a problem ... take possession of it ... If you have, you can take control of it.
Background:
Before you start to look deeper into the tension, we must think about some fundamental questions.
Stress is an important and natural human condition essential to our survival and is part of our basic answers "fight or flight." It may be good, for example, a romantic encounter or anticipation of reward obtained or "advertised" before a sporting event. However, stress causes depression or weakening is clearly something to be avoided.
In my opinion, one of the main causes of the increase in state anxiety and stress is the need for constant change. This "requirement" of society in general and individuals in particular, is growing and virtually unavoidable. Our freedoms are increasingly eroded with the advanced technology of this situation. For hundreds of years, life had great elements of foreseeability. In the seventeenth century, for example, if your father was a shoemaker, and, like his son, and in turn, their children became shoemakers.
Today, it is very likely that the person has many career changes or work with many courses and needs or recycling opportunities. More common is the change in the concept of the nuclear family. The high divorce rates cause changes in family structure and lifestyle affects current and future generations. The work will require higher grades, perhaps unnecessarily so.
Areas such as communication brand presents a growing amount of information to discover and assimilate volume. Armed with the Internet, email, cell phones, etc., which are capable, and therefore often expected to respond quickly to external demands. Can not escape the intrusion of technology also extends to the street with CCTV, a government agency bureaucracy, methods of police surveillance, identity, etc.
National and local government offices and, curious, peering fastidious organisms and a growing volume of information. All our actions somehow seems settled. I could go on, of course, but the point I'm making is that we are increasingly dependent on external control bodies, or at least influence our lives and make decisions for us or force us to make decisions that we do not want. I suggest that it makes us "weak" point of view of decision-making, and do not believe that we are in control, and we always have to make compromises. This can lead to feelings of helplessness and uncertainty, which leads to increased levels of stress.
So, in general, these are the areas where stress can come?
The issues discussed in the previous paragraph can be considered stressors "background", which is the description of events by stress. Possible causes of stress depend on a number of factors including their personality, general outlook on life, their ability to cope and solve problems. The daily exposure to stressors can be described in the following sections:
or the environment.Places where people live and / or work. Are unsafe, overcrowded, uncomfortable, threatening, are contaminated, too loud, etc?
or family and relationshipsMarital problems, the difficulty of finding a supportive relationship, rebellious teenagers, caring for the elderly or a child with special needs, for example, can cause severe stress.
or workIn our society of career / money / status driven by our work (or lack thereof) can offer high levels of stress. This can be caused by job dissatisfaction, low salaries, office politics, resentment or conflict with the boss or colleagues, which could include sexual harassment.
or social stress factorsThe social status of a person can have a great influence as a factor of stress. Poverty, financial pressures racial, age and gender discrimination, unemployment, isolation or lack of social support can all provide fertile ground for stress.
Not all stress comes from external sources, but can also be self-generated. The following table gives some examples:or uncertainties or concernsor pessimisticor criticism (which still critical voice inside your head)or unrealistic expectations or beliefsor perfectionismor low self-esteemor excessive or unexpressed angero Lack of confidence
Maybe you even begin to realize that stress can be developed by a combination of things. Every little irritation help cause stress in other areas which have an effect of "touch."
What is stress and how it affects us?
Feelings of stress come from any situation where we feel frustrated, angry or anxious us.For many, the voltage source is known. Or is it? It may not be that simple. Have you seen the many ways that stress can travel to reach a large number of them are quietly working away in the "background."
Stress is a normal and natural state of fear at the base thereof.
The stress is more common in women than in men as evidenced by Roper Starch survey in 1999. Courses in this report, women who work with young children (under 13 years) seem particularly vulnerable.
The role of women has changed a lot over the last 100 years. These days, a woman often has many roles: wife, mother, father and daughter caregivers, sources of income, Concierge, educator and payment of bills. A very important but often overlooked role: to take care of it.
Women in general, however, have an advantage over men when it comes to treating emotional problems. Women are much more willing to openly discuss their emotional problems that can be very helpful in the healing process. Men, on the other hand is often raised feelings nonsense like "big boys do not cry", "keep a good face", "real men do not show their emotions." These feelings can cause real damage that men may find it difficult to open up and express strong emotions which leads to stress.
There are hundreds of factors that contribute to stress, but most can be classified into six types by therapists, which highlights the fact that stress is not a single disease.
People react differently to stress stimuli and how we can classify the reasons why an individual may become stressed. Maybe you can identify with one of these? Know where your stress is a good start in the face. Here are some examples:
a) A tendency "legacy" for stress.We learn how to respond to potentially stressful situations parents or significant others. Will you teach your children to be stressed when they become adults, perhaps in the same way you learned?
b) personality type "A":Those who enter this type definition display features, including:Prone to or achievementor used to force the job to unrealistic goalsor always competitiveor constantly aware of time and subject to the executionAnger early exposure oror cynical
This group is particularly vulnerable to stress-related conditions such as heart attacks, because they are addicted to stress. There are two main factors that contribute to their propensity are hostility and cynicism factor.
c) Have a negative worldview.People who focus on the negative aspects of situations, for example, focusing on the nightmares of life or worry about the worst possible outcome (glass half empty).
d) People who repress or deny important feelings such as pain, anger or sadness.For example, imagine a situation in which a man has a thankless job and his wife is to focus very professional. When they are together, she always talks about his progress on his latest project, politics and characters to work, how inspiring is his manager etc. The husband is supportive and happy that she can find such satisfaction in their work. BUT resent to play "second fiddle" to your attention, why you need the extra income it provides, maybe she has more in common with people you work with and find attractive, etc. C It is a very dangerous type stress / anger can fester and eventually manifest in anger.
e) The need to please everyone (ie, unable to say what I always say NO YES).The "decision" of the world seems to know where all the "donors" are how to handle them. If you were raised to be "nice" and put the needs of others before your own, you will always stressed that internal conflicts. This occurs when your mouth says "yes" and your heart says 'no'. I suggest that you are easily influenced by emotional blackmail.
Stress is also not telling people what you really want to say, and he does not want to feel bad.
The problem if you live on the situation worsens, then mentally rehearse all the things I should have said. Of course, you'll tell me how he really feels next time (knowing that it will not). Chances are you were raised in an environment in which they were ignored or perhaps their emotional needs are not met and felt that if his feelings were not important.
Learn to say no at work can also be very important. Colleagues may be more willing to get rid of some of his works in your inbox or do you work overtime without additional compensation. Your friends can "dump" their children on you so they can organize their own lives, more important and may be busy or volunteered for the work of the commission that nobody else wants etc.
If this describes you then do something stress relief can give difficulties. The reason is that you have to do something yourself and perhaps feelings of guilt in this "indulgence". No! You and your feelings are very, very important. Not only you, but the people who love you.
f) Being a caregiver.This feature can be very stressful. On the one hand, you are a compassionate and caring person to make a significant contribution to the quality of life of his office. On the other hand, you may feel resentment that his life is on hold, feel the added pressure of commitments in your own life, anger, perhaps more to flee their responsibilities and discharge of all, the feeling helplessness or frustration that their condition worsens office etc.
There is no fault of the caregiver to have these selfish feelings.Suggest that there are three areas that you can focus on relieving stress associated with care:
1). Allow YOU time. You need and deserve it. Lots of advice later in this article, but you should not feel guilty.
2). Open your feelings with a friend or therapist. "Bottling it all" or accept that "we all have a cross to bear," we make you sick and angry, may express their anger on the person (s) that you care.
3). Learn to say NO, see above. Too often, caregivers are made to help people perfectly capable of helping themselves. There are only so many hours in the day and a lot of physical and emotional energy only.
g) Growth / Raised in a religious environment that control guilt.Persons belonging to this group may well question and agonize over every thought and decision making.
h) A "behavior against sulfur
It is a very broad and important topic, but beyond the scope of this article and can not really be touched. However, they are a rich source of stress and you should be aware that if they relate to you. If you think these questions of fact which can affect you greatly benefit from seeing a therapist. But what these issues are about?
Counterproductive behaviors are our adaptive responses to unnecessary situations. These behaviors are such that they will not support us to provide long-term situation of a positive result. Indeed, the behavior seems to be working against our own interests and often described as self-sabotage. For this reason, it seems paradoxical to the extent that seem to fly in the face of logic and reason.
If we know these behaviors in us is of little help to stop because "stubbornly" We continue with the same inappropriate responses and again.
A good example would be if you always chose the "wrong" kind of person for a relationship and always ends the same way.
Maybe you say or do something really stupid to end the relationship. You knew it would end.
Be aware therefore leads to strong negative emotions such as anger, frustration, depression and stress. So what kind of behaviors are included in these?
A fear of failure / success. We are trying "to succeed in something and always ends in failure becomes stressful.
We procrastinate say find all kinds of reasons not to act, even when measures to prevent requires more effort than actually doing the job (teenagers take note). This common behavior is related to the fear of failure / success.
We lie to ourselves. Are these sound familiar? "Sure, I could do if I really wanted." Or "It's part of my personality, I would not change it ever", etc. etc.
We hide from reality. For example, someone with financial problems that have many bills unopened "urgent" on the table, perhaps just out side of the view.Etc..
So how stress works?
At first glance, it seems strange stress mechanism. Why a natural process that is designed with our safety in mind have the potential to make us so much damage? Well let's take a look at how it works in more detail.
Basic mechanism of stress
Stress is a psychological and physiological response to events / thoughts / feelings that upset our personal balance in some way. When we face a threat (real or perceived), our bodies automatically go quickly in the way of "fight or flight" response. This involves a cascade of biological changes that prepare us for emergency action. The sympathetic nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline. These hormones travel through the bloodstream, preparing for combat or rapid evacuation. This preparation includes: increased heart rate and blood flow to muscles, constriction of blood vessels under the skin (to reduce blood loss if we are injured) and expanded to improve eyesight. Sugar levels in the blood is also enhanced to give you a boost of energy and reduce the reaction time. False functions that need immediate survival, such as the digestive system, are deleted. When the threat has passed or tried, systems back to a normal operating state, ie our hormone levels stabilize.
This survival mechanism has worked well for our ancestors against dangers such as wild animals or fighting. In the modern world, however, most of the constraints that we feel is in response to psychological rather than physical threats.
The bill, however, can not differentiate between a potential attack animals or expected confrontation with his boss, for example. Like a caveman, if they met suddenly hungrily saber-toothed tiger you run (fast enough I guess). If you're mad at your boss, you can not really escape and certainly not hit him with a spear! In both examples, the answer is the same, except no stress hormones dissipates quickly in the second. If you have a lot of concerns or worries, it is likely that you use in much of the stress that makes it difficult to extinguish. Instead of dissipating, or at least stabilize once the threat passes, heart rate, hormone levels and blood pressure remain high. The long-term exposure to what a detrimental effect contributing to heart disease, cancer, obesity and emotional problems such as anxiety, depression, irritability, panic attacks and sexual dysfunction. One of the "products" of stress is the release of cholesterol by the liver. Perhaps this explains the relationship between the stress and conditions of the heart, at least partly.
Health problems caused by stress
More than a million people a year are diagnosed with stress-related problems in the United States. However, a consultation with a doctor is usually a physical problem that has arisen due to stress. What are some of these problems? Well there can be:
Headaches sleep problemsTiredness and fatigue loss of appetite or overeatingDiscomfort or pain in the back, neck or jaw panic attacksDepression IraHypertension heart diseaseRaised cholesterol erectile dysfunction
Ok, now I know how it is and how I can deal with this?
First, we need to understand that stress is a normal part of life. In fact, a certain amount is desirable. How annoying (stressful) is that it was a life without problems?
Very useful for analyzing the stress in your life journey is to keep a journal of daily stress. In this, you should take notes on any event that causes negative feelings. The notes should include the time, location (eg, food), the event that (s) conducted, the feelings of one and a number from 1 to 10 which indicates the intensity of the stress it east. Such an entry might look like this:
Monday, February 147:30 In the kitchen preparing breakfast. No sign of Jim card, the bet was forgotten! Again! Peter still in bed, he'll be late for school and I'm late for work again. And I have to fill the car with petrol!
I am angry and resentful Jim It seems fair to assume and feel Peter should be old enough to adjust.
stress level 9.
Keep a journal of its kind for a week or will highlight the types of situations that are subjected to what you feel stressed or anxious and feelings associated with these events. You are then in a better position to evaluate and solve problems. For example, in the example above, you can plan your life better, that is to wake up earlier to Peter and fill the car with fuel yesterday. Regarding feelings, she starts the day with anger convinced that Jim forgot his card, that Peter is the cause of your late for work and the car is fuel inconsiderate need when you're late! You get the idea. One thing you will notice is how little annoyances of life accumulate throughout the day.
A source of stress for many people this is work.
If you are under enormous pressure at work, for example, do you really want to be in this job / company? What you get: state, big check, power, all the above? Does the acquisition of these things are worth trading your health and possibly your relationships? Do you really like your job?
Imagine that, finally, all the long hours, meals, poor diet and weekend work finally have their reward ... died in his office after a massive heart attack missed. You boss and coworkers go to your funeral. Down to earth for a long sleep, which could be the topic of conversation?
How wonderfully worked hard, his incredible work ethic, a great added value to the company, how the hell they ever be able to replace you? O, that will come back on this project does not stop? His family, of course, can be how you will replace ask.
Home is another source of stress to their requirements and needs. Your partner will stress as well as their children. Try to be sensitive experienced by those around him stress. Our behavior affects other forever. Sometimes we forget that children have stress in their lives. The pleasure was all day at school for you? Remember tasks pressure, projects, disputes between friends, hormones everywhere, etc? As adults, they now seem so trivial and manageable, but was not then.
Money, or lack thereof, is an area that many find stressful. Essentially, you have to accept he has a problem and that the solution will require changes not allowed, but necessary. Simple things like starting a budget and track all expenses. Maybe see a counselor and payment rescheduling of debt to creditors. Do things to reduce expenses.
Some practical advice.
Do not try to get the point of view of stress. Is this thing really worth the feeling that this is bad? This is perhaps all the other irritations that occur throughout the day as "finished" at this point?
If it works, assess and reflect on a job change with a concomitant change in lifestyle, perhaps.
If it comes to home and family, sit together regularly say the meal and talk. Yes communicate which means turning off the TV (shock, horror) and listen to the other.
Try the following:A weekend of camping in the garden with the family. Forget spiders and insects, it will be fun! You do not need a (cell), a laptop or an Internet connection, a can opener, sleeping bags and a stove.
Play hide and seek or cowboys and Indians with the family. Adelante! A kid again! Or better yet (my favorite): a family pillow fight (cleanroom fragile objects go crazy). Sounds silly? Try and rediscover fun.
What: Meditation, Chi Kung, Tai Chi, reading (books no relation), rediscover their spirituality, or cycling family rediscover how to laugh, etc. These activities should not be expensive and can help you get back to the ones you love moments of pleasure for those that are memorable.
There are many opportunities to show, but I hope to have stimulated reflection and action.
Concluding Remarks
I covered a lot of material in this article and I hope you found value.
Pressures from society and will continue throughout the greater likelihood. I hope, however, you now have a better understanding of your stress in particular and the state in general, is in a much better position to cope. There is only so much control you can have on stressors background. This does not have full control over how you choose to perceive these events.
Certainly, the decision to change requires a lot of courage because you have to accept that you must take responsibility for their own lives. So by reading and following the advice contained in these pages has demonstrated the value and were given a precious gift: to be able to live a full and enjoyable life.
External events always affect us, but how we see these events that can cause damage to both emotional.
If you are concerned about physical symptoms, then it is important that you check with your doctor
The purpose of this article is to identify some of these areas of stress, stress detail and offer some practical steps you can take to reduce its debilitating effects.
You should be aware that the long-term stress is a murderer, or, can provide horrible weakness. It can be insidious because the effects are cumulative affect us both mentally and physically, with the real possibility of bringing people to the breaking point.
For many people, stress is something that has been with them for a long time and are now the norm. This is far from healthy. Many are convinced that "thrive on stress. Again, this is a very unhealthy and potentially dangerous attitude to have and we will address the health problems created by the tension a little later. For now, however, I recommend you read this article and you must accept the responsibility to act to change things. By accepting you have a problem ... take possession of it ... If you have, you can take control of it.
Background:
Before you start to look deeper into the tension, we must think about some fundamental questions.
Stress is an important and natural human condition essential to our survival and is part of our basic answers "fight or flight." It may be good, for example, a romantic encounter or anticipation of reward obtained or "advertised" before a sporting event. However, stress causes depression or weakening is clearly something to be avoided.
In my opinion, one of the main causes of the increase in state anxiety and stress is the need for constant change. This "requirement" of society in general and individuals in particular, is growing and virtually unavoidable. Our freedoms are increasingly eroded with the advanced technology of this situation. For hundreds of years, life had great elements of foreseeability. In the seventeenth century, for example, if your father was a shoemaker, and, like his son, and in turn, their children became shoemakers.
Today, it is very likely that the person has many career changes or work with many courses and needs or recycling opportunities. More common is the change in the concept of the nuclear family. The high divorce rates cause changes in family structure and lifestyle affects current and future generations. The work will require higher grades, perhaps unnecessarily so.
Areas such as communication brand presents a growing amount of information to discover and assimilate volume. Armed with the Internet, email, cell phones, etc., which are capable, and therefore often expected to respond quickly to external demands. Can not escape the intrusion of technology also extends to the street with CCTV, a government agency bureaucracy, methods of police surveillance, identity, etc.
National and local government offices and, curious, peering fastidious organisms and a growing volume of information. All our actions somehow seems settled. I could go on, of course, but the point I'm making is that we are increasingly dependent on external control bodies, or at least influence our lives and make decisions for us or force us to make decisions that we do not want. I suggest that it makes us "weak" point of view of decision-making, and do not believe that we are in control, and we always have to make compromises. This can lead to feelings of helplessness and uncertainty, which leads to increased levels of stress.
So, in general, these are the areas where stress can come?
The issues discussed in the previous paragraph can be considered stressors "background", which is the description of events by stress. Possible causes of stress depend on a number of factors including their personality, general outlook on life, their ability to cope and solve problems. The daily exposure to stressors can be described in the following sections:
or the environment.Places where people live and / or work. Are unsafe, overcrowded, uncomfortable, threatening, are contaminated, too loud, etc?
or family and relationshipsMarital problems, the difficulty of finding a supportive relationship, rebellious teenagers, caring for the elderly or a child with special needs, for example, can cause severe stress.
or workIn our society of career / money / status driven by our work (or lack thereof) can offer high levels of stress. This can be caused by job dissatisfaction, low salaries, office politics, resentment or conflict with the boss or colleagues, which could include sexual harassment.
or social stress factorsThe social status of a person can have a great influence as a factor of stress. Poverty, financial pressures racial, age and gender discrimination, unemployment, isolation or lack of social support can all provide fertile ground for stress.
Not all stress comes from external sources, but can also be self-generated. The following table gives some examples:or uncertainties or concernsor pessimisticor criticism (which still critical voice inside your head)or unrealistic expectations or beliefsor perfectionismor low self-esteemor excessive or unexpressed angero Lack of confidence
Maybe you even begin to realize that stress can be developed by a combination of things. Every little irritation help cause stress in other areas which have an effect of "touch."
What is stress and how it affects us?
Feelings of stress come from any situation where we feel frustrated, angry or anxious us.For many, the voltage source is known. Or is it? It may not be that simple. Have you seen the many ways that stress can travel to reach a large number of them are quietly working away in the "background."
Stress is a normal and natural state of fear at the base thereof.
The stress is more common in women than in men as evidenced by Roper Starch survey in 1999. Courses in this report, women who work with young children (under 13 years) seem particularly vulnerable.
The role of women has changed a lot over the last 100 years. These days, a woman often has many roles: wife, mother, father and daughter caregivers, sources of income, Concierge, educator and payment of bills. A very important but often overlooked role: to take care of it.
Women in general, however, have an advantage over men when it comes to treating emotional problems. Women are much more willing to openly discuss their emotional problems that can be very helpful in the healing process. Men, on the other hand is often raised feelings nonsense like "big boys do not cry", "keep a good face", "real men do not show their emotions." These feelings can cause real damage that men may find it difficult to open up and express strong emotions which leads to stress.
There are hundreds of factors that contribute to stress, but most can be classified into six types by therapists, which highlights the fact that stress is not a single disease.
People react differently to stress stimuli and how we can classify the reasons why an individual may become stressed. Maybe you can identify with one of these? Know where your stress is a good start in the face. Here are some examples:
a) A tendency "legacy" for stress.We learn how to respond to potentially stressful situations parents or significant others. Will you teach your children to be stressed when they become adults, perhaps in the same way you learned?
b) personality type "A":Those who enter this type definition display features, including:Prone to or achievementor used to force the job to unrealistic goalsor always competitiveor constantly aware of time and subject to the executionAnger early exposure oror cynical
This group is particularly vulnerable to stress-related conditions such as heart attacks, because they are addicted to stress. There are two main factors that contribute to their propensity are hostility and cynicism factor.
c) Have a negative worldview.People who focus on the negative aspects of situations, for example, focusing on the nightmares of life or worry about the worst possible outcome (glass half empty).
d) People who repress or deny important feelings such as pain, anger or sadness.For example, imagine a situation in which a man has a thankless job and his wife is to focus very professional. When they are together, she always talks about his progress on his latest project, politics and characters to work, how inspiring is his manager etc. The husband is supportive and happy that she can find such satisfaction in their work. BUT resent to play "second fiddle" to your attention, why you need the extra income it provides, maybe she has more in common with people you work with and find attractive, etc. C It is a very dangerous type stress / anger can fester and eventually manifest in anger.
e) The need to please everyone (ie, unable to say what I always say NO YES).The "decision" of the world seems to know where all the "donors" are how to handle them. If you were raised to be "nice" and put the needs of others before your own, you will always stressed that internal conflicts. This occurs when your mouth says "yes" and your heart says 'no'. I suggest that you are easily influenced by emotional blackmail.
Stress is also not telling people what you really want to say, and he does not want to feel bad.
The problem if you live on the situation worsens, then mentally rehearse all the things I should have said. Of course, you'll tell me how he really feels next time (knowing that it will not). Chances are you were raised in an environment in which they were ignored or perhaps their emotional needs are not met and felt that if his feelings were not important.
Learn to say no at work can also be very important. Colleagues may be more willing to get rid of some of his works in your inbox or do you work overtime without additional compensation. Your friends can "dump" their children on you so they can organize their own lives, more important and may be busy or volunteered for the work of the commission that nobody else wants etc.
If this describes you then do something stress relief can give difficulties. The reason is that you have to do something yourself and perhaps feelings of guilt in this "indulgence". No! You and your feelings are very, very important. Not only you, but the people who love you.
f) Being a caregiver.This feature can be very stressful. On the one hand, you are a compassionate and caring person to make a significant contribution to the quality of life of his office. On the other hand, you may feel resentment that his life is on hold, feel the added pressure of commitments in your own life, anger, perhaps more to flee their responsibilities and discharge of all, the feeling helplessness or frustration that their condition worsens office etc.
There is no fault of the caregiver to have these selfish feelings.Suggest that there are three areas that you can focus on relieving stress associated with care:
1). Allow YOU time. You need and deserve it. Lots of advice later in this article, but you should not feel guilty.
2). Open your feelings with a friend or therapist. "Bottling it all" or accept that "we all have a cross to bear," we make you sick and angry, may express their anger on the person (s) that you care.
3). Learn to say NO, see above. Too often, caregivers are made to help people perfectly capable of helping themselves. There are only so many hours in the day and a lot of physical and emotional energy only.
g) Growth / Raised in a religious environment that control guilt.Persons belonging to this group may well question and agonize over every thought and decision making.
h) A "behavior against sulfur
It is a very broad and important topic, but beyond the scope of this article and can not really be touched. However, they are a rich source of stress and you should be aware that if they relate to you. If you think these questions of fact which can affect you greatly benefit from seeing a therapist. But what these issues are about?
Counterproductive behaviors are our adaptive responses to unnecessary situations. These behaviors are such that they will not support us to provide long-term situation of a positive result. Indeed, the behavior seems to be working against our own interests and often described as self-sabotage. For this reason, it seems paradoxical to the extent that seem to fly in the face of logic and reason.
If we know these behaviors in us is of little help to stop because "stubbornly" We continue with the same inappropriate responses and again.
A good example would be if you always chose the "wrong" kind of person for a relationship and always ends the same way.
Maybe you say or do something really stupid to end the relationship. You knew it would end.
Be aware therefore leads to strong negative emotions such as anger, frustration, depression and stress. So what kind of behaviors are included in these?
A fear of failure / success. We are trying "to succeed in something and always ends in failure becomes stressful.
We procrastinate say find all kinds of reasons not to act, even when measures to prevent requires more effort than actually doing the job (teenagers take note). This common behavior is related to the fear of failure / success.
We lie to ourselves. Are these sound familiar? "Sure, I could do if I really wanted." Or "It's part of my personality, I would not change it ever", etc. etc.
We hide from reality. For example, someone with financial problems that have many bills unopened "urgent" on the table, perhaps just out side of the view.Etc..
So how stress works?
At first glance, it seems strange stress mechanism. Why a natural process that is designed with our safety in mind have the potential to make us so much damage? Well let's take a look at how it works in more detail.
Basic mechanism of stress
Stress is a psychological and physiological response to events / thoughts / feelings that upset our personal balance in some way. When we face a threat (real or perceived), our bodies automatically go quickly in the way of "fight or flight" response. This involves a cascade of biological changes that prepare us for emergency action. The sympathetic nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline. These hormones travel through the bloodstream, preparing for combat or rapid evacuation. This preparation includes: increased heart rate and blood flow to muscles, constriction of blood vessels under the skin (to reduce blood loss if we are injured) and expanded to improve eyesight. Sugar levels in the blood is also enhanced to give you a boost of energy and reduce the reaction time. False functions that need immediate survival, such as the digestive system, are deleted. When the threat has passed or tried, systems back to a normal operating state, ie our hormone levels stabilize.
This survival mechanism has worked well for our ancestors against dangers such as wild animals or fighting. In the modern world, however, most of the constraints that we feel is in response to psychological rather than physical threats.
The bill, however, can not differentiate between a potential attack animals or expected confrontation with his boss, for example. Like a caveman, if they met suddenly hungrily saber-toothed tiger you run (fast enough I guess). If you're mad at your boss, you can not really escape and certainly not hit him with a spear! In both examples, the answer is the same, except no stress hormones dissipates quickly in the second. If you have a lot of concerns or worries, it is likely that you use in much of the stress that makes it difficult to extinguish. Instead of dissipating, or at least stabilize once the threat passes, heart rate, hormone levels and blood pressure remain high. The long-term exposure to what a detrimental effect contributing to heart disease, cancer, obesity and emotional problems such as anxiety, depression, irritability, panic attacks and sexual dysfunction. One of the "products" of stress is the release of cholesterol by the liver. Perhaps this explains the relationship between the stress and conditions of the heart, at least partly.
Health problems caused by stress
More than a million people a year are diagnosed with stress-related problems in the United States. However, a consultation with a doctor is usually a physical problem that has arisen due to stress. What are some of these problems? Well there can be:
Headaches sleep problemsTiredness and fatigue loss of appetite or overeatingDiscomfort or pain in the back, neck or jaw panic attacksDepression IraHypertension heart diseaseRaised cholesterol erectile dysfunction
Ok, now I know how it is and how I can deal with this?
First, we need to understand that stress is a normal part of life. In fact, a certain amount is desirable. How annoying (stressful) is that it was a life without problems?
Very useful for analyzing the stress in your life journey is to keep a journal of daily stress. In this, you should take notes on any event that causes negative feelings. The notes should include the time, location (eg, food), the event that (s) conducted, the feelings of one and a number from 1 to 10 which indicates the intensity of the stress it east. Such an entry might look like this:
Monday, February 147:30 In the kitchen preparing breakfast. No sign of Jim card, the bet was forgotten! Again! Peter still in bed, he'll be late for school and I'm late for work again. And I have to fill the car with petrol!
I am angry and resentful Jim It seems fair to assume and feel Peter should be old enough to adjust.
stress level 9.
Keep a journal of its kind for a week or will highlight the types of situations that are subjected to what you feel stressed or anxious and feelings associated with these events. You are then in a better position to evaluate and solve problems. For example, in the example above, you can plan your life better, that is to wake up earlier to Peter and fill the car with fuel yesterday. Regarding feelings, she starts the day with anger convinced that Jim forgot his card, that Peter is the cause of your late for work and the car is fuel inconsiderate need when you're late! You get the idea. One thing you will notice is how little annoyances of life accumulate throughout the day.
A source of stress for many people this is work.
If you are under enormous pressure at work, for example, do you really want to be in this job / company? What you get: state, big check, power, all the above? Does the acquisition of these things are worth trading your health and possibly your relationships? Do you really like your job?
Imagine that, finally, all the long hours, meals, poor diet and weekend work finally have their reward ... died in his office after a massive heart attack missed. You boss and coworkers go to your funeral. Down to earth for a long sleep, which could be the topic of conversation?
How wonderfully worked hard, his incredible work ethic, a great added value to the company, how the hell they ever be able to replace you? O, that will come back on this project does not stop? His family, of course, can be how you will replace ask.
Home is another source of stress to their requirements and needs. Your partner will stress as well as their children. Try to be sensitive experienced by those around him stress. Our behavior affects other forever. Sometimes we forget that children have stress in their lives. The pleasure was all day at school for you? Remember tasks pressure, projects, disputes between friends, hormones everywhere, etc? As adults, they now seem so trivial and manageable, but was not then.
Money, or lack thereof, is an area that many find stressful. Essentially, you have to accept he has a problem and that the solution will require changes not allowed, but necessary. Simple things like starting a budget and track all expenses. Maybe see a counselor and payment rescheduling of debt to creditors. Do things to reduce expenses.
Some practical advice.
Do not try to get the point of view of stress. Is this thing really worth the feeling that this is bad? This is perhaps all the other irritations that occur throughout the day as "finished" at this point?
If it works, assess and reflect on a job change with a concomitant change in lifestyle, perhaps.
If it comes to home and family, sit together regularly say the meal and talk. Yes communicate which means turning off the TV (shock, horror) and listen to the other.
Try the following:A weekend of camping in the garden with the family. Forget spiders and insects, it will be fun! You do not need a (cell), a laptop or an Internet connection, a can opener, sleeping bags and a stove.
Play hide and seek or cowboys and Indians with the family. Adelante! A kid again! Or better yet (my favorite): a family pillow fight (cleanroom fragile objects go crazy). Sounds silly? Try and rediscover fun.
What: Meditation, Chi Kung, Tai Chi, reading (books no relation), rediscover their spirituality, or cycling family rediscover how to laugh, etc. These activities should not be expensive and can help you get back to the ones you love moments of pleasure for those that are memorable.
There are many opportunities to show, but I hope to have stimulated reflection and action.
Concluding Remarks
I covered a lot of material in this article and I hope you found value.
Pressures from society and will continue throughout the greater likelihood. I hope, however, you now have a better understanding of your stress in particular and the state in general, is in a much better position to cope. There is only so much control you can have on stressors background. This does not have full control over how you choose to perceive these events.
Certainly, the decision to change requires a lot of courage because you have to accept that you must take responsibility for their own lives. So by reading and following the advice contained in these pages has demonstrated the value and were given a precious gift: to be able to live a full and enjoyable life.
External events always affect us, but how we see these events that can cause damage to both emotional.
If you are concerned about physical symptoms, then it is important that you check with your doctor
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