Are You a Body Image Bully?

This weekend, I saw my 4 year old nephew call my son seven year old nephew a tyrant because he does not share his balloon with him. He called a tyrant like the worst insult in the world - a dirty word. The seven looked as if he had called a bastard. It was really an insult to be sure.

I do not think I had an awareness of bullying and age. I was a little happy to see that for them, bullying was an insult. By the looks on both sides, it was obvious that something was called Bully never want to be called. I can get with that, you know?

These days, you can not open a magazine or getting on social networks without hearing about the bullying. This is definitely turning into a buzzword in today's culture. In my opinion, I think it's great that people are becoming more aware of how children treat each other. Anyone who was picked up in the school yard known to be intimidated by a partner is its own special kind of pain. Unless it can only be a good thing.

Anyway, so obviously I'm a fan of the new zero-tolerance policy Most schools take on bullying. Zero tolerance - as in - just in no way acceptable. Period. It's not complicated. I do not think it should be.

Yet, while it is so clear and obvious when it comes to bullying in childhood, I think when it comes to intimidation of the automobile, people are often much less clear-cut. What self-bullying? It's what you do every time you judge yourself, your body and your life. This is what happens when the inner critic is the internal microphone.

Auto-bullying as bad as bullying in the schoolyard, but many of us just seem to "close your eyes". In other words, we do our day to day without ever getting up for us and protect us from our own inner critic. This internal review is the worst kind of tyrant.

So - here's my challenge to you. What would it take to enforce a zero tolerance policy on self-bullying?

I invite you to think deeply about this.

Are you or sarcastic and critical of yourself?
I ooze or sarcastic and never allow you to accept our sincere congratulations?
Or you compare yourself with others?
or do you compete with other forces to prove your worth?
Or do you think you and your body severely?
or are you saying bad things or hurt you?

If yes to any of these questions, then you identify their own "bully" personal. She lives in her mind, that follows you wherever you go, criticize, judge and basically make fun of you.

It is difficult to accept question. Nobody wants to see in a negative light, but to heal what is causing this, I encourage you to keep an open mind.

Why are we doing this? Why we intimidate?

Most childhood tyrants life when we think we are cruel really scared. When we judge, we do not know ourselves. We are taught that we are not good enough, and if we go out of ourselves to make sure we are not alone in this apparent failure.

The thugs try to feel powerful, and do, to hit someone down for bigger, better feel temporarily or somehow superior to the way individual. The sad irony in this scenario is that our power is reduced whenever we judge and compare.

If we allow our inner critic, inner tyrant to run the program, and then continue in a cycle of violence and evil. Will we allow this to continue without interference is what we saw in the playground? No way!

We can choose to act in a superior, more authentic, and not let the inner critic, the attacker, who have the last word. We can choose to heal this part of ourselves, and rely on the path of self-love and respect. We can be free from the tyranny of comparison and competition, but we have to start with the relationship you have with yourself, and it returns to consciousness.

The awareness of our inner dialogue and internal dialogue gives us an idea of WHO is running the show. If you realize that your internal aggressor, you can choose to reframe and refocus your internal dialogue. You can create the midwife, authentic, you want to be good, loving and compassionate with your self. In conscience, we receive the incredible gift or recognize that we have a choice. We can impose a zero tolerance policy, and instead, we can:

or choose not to criticize you.
or choose not to participate.
or choose not to compare.
or choose to embrace and celebrate their unique qualities
or Choose to be kind, compassionate, and accept you as you continue the current job, also known as life.

Is it really that simple? Just choose? Just apply a zero tolerance policy?

I think so. Why not try, just for a week and see how it goes. I promise you, your efforts will pay off.

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